What’s right with you? That may be tougher to answer than what’s wrong but give it a try. Think about the best thing going on for you right now.
Feels good, doesn’t it?
What would it be like if doctors, therapists, coaches, employers, teachers, parents, lovers and anyone
else who sometimes tells you what’s wrong with you actually told you what’s right with you?
You’d focus on your resources!
These could be objects, money or relationships, but the most important ones are your emotional states,
personality traits and skills or talents.
–> Confidence, mental clarity and wisdom.
–> Wit, humor and charm.
–> Maybe the ability to fix broken stuff.
Whatever your strengths, own them! In fact, periodically take inventory. You can start now by checking the Outlaw Catalog of Cagey Optimism to see if you may already have some of these gifts. It is an excerpt from Rob Brezsny’s book Pronoia, presented as the anti-DSM, the opposite of the complete manual of medical and mental health diagnoses.
Some of my favorites include:
BOO-DUH NATURE. Dwelling in the blithe understanding of the fact that worry is useless because most of what we worry about never happens. (Suggested by Timothy S. Wallace.)
SCHIZOFRIENDIA. Hearing voices in your head that are constantly supportive, encouraging, and keen to offer advice that helps you make the most of every experience. (Suggested by Lewis.)
UNSELFCONSCIOUSNESS. Doing what you’re doing and being who you’re being without thinking about it at all. Being happy by virtue of not worrying about whether or not you’re happy; enjoying a unified state in which you are not split between the you who acts and the you who observes. (Suggested by Valerie Keller.)
If you’re not already experiencing these anti-problems, fear not! You can learn to cultivate them (and I can help!).
The definition of the word “pronoia” is the belief the Universe is conspiring on your behalf. Some people buy into this idea more readily than others. I choose to think this way because it has proven to be useful to do so. Therefore, I just act as if it is true. I’ve made it a presupposition.
It’s also one of the Building Blocks of a Better Attitude, my new e-book available here:
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